City Management

I manage a city. I manage a city, and I have every job within the city. When things go awry with my children or their friends, or even with kids at school they don’t really know, I am on the other end of the 9-1-1 call. My job is to ask just enough questions to…

What is Winning?

  You win. #winning. Win-Win. What does it mean to win? Outside of sports, where there are clearly defined rules and generally a person or team has a better score, what does it mean to win? Search Twitter for #winning and you’ll quickly see that winning is political and we have redefined it as proving…

Purses and Thoughts

My purse is out of control. My beautiful blue crocodile Kate Spade is so full of stuff and so heavy that once I sat my bag down in the passenger seat, my car flashed the seatbelt sign. I knew it was getting heavy - a couple of times recently I’d caught myself rubbing my shoulder…

April Fool’s Birthday Girl

Fourteen years ago, in the middle of the night, I was doing the exact same thing as I am right at this moment: laying in bed with my daughter just a few feet away, marveling about her. Ella was born not long after midnight, on April 1. After all the post-delivery chaos of Apgar scores…

Refurbish, Brave Girl

I hate messes. I don’t like sand in my car, I don’t like PlayDough that gets stuck in toys supposedly designed for PlayDough, I don’t buy glitter or powder or terrariums if I can help it, and I don’t like substances like Desitin or vegetable oil that are really hard to clean off of things.…

Find the Funny, Brave Girls

Find the funny in all things, and life will be fun. I don’t know where I heard that in my youth, but it has stuck with me. I really really wish I could remember the context, but it is deeply hidden somewhere in my mid-forties Mom brain which must prioritize school lunch components that need…

Grieving is Brave

It’s hard to predict what things will “stick” in our children’s minds years from now. What memories will become indelibly lodged in their brains and psyches. What events will be life changing. What words will be mulled over repeatedly. What action or inaction will never be forgotten, and will alter the way they think and…

Sorry is Brave

Sorry is a word. Sorry can go from a word to a feeling. Sorry can go from a feeling to a behavior. It’s that action, in the behavior step, that separates the phony from the authentic. Sometimes we say we're sorry when we don’t really feel it or before we feel it. Sorry is not…

No Excuses, Brave Girl

No excuses. My commitment to myself for 2019 is that I am done with excuses. Done with making excuses. Done with allowing excuses from others. One of the things I’ve realized about myself this past year is that I am an enabler. I am capable of juggling a lot and organizing a lot and being…

Brave Girl Wannabe is Angry

The bravest people I know are children surviving the behavior of selfish adults. The bravest people I know are children who try to offer forgiveness in scenarios where "adults" like me simply cannot. The bravest people I know are children who admit they are afraid and ask for help. The bravest people I know are…