What Spills Out

For every awful thing I can name that's upset our world, there are at least a dozen related things for which to be thankful. For every negative way our lives have been impacted, at least a dozen positives or silver linings. For every mean girl, at least a dozen kind girls. For every disappointment, at…

Compass or Baggage

Love is never ever ever selfish. Love is never present when there are excuses or narratives or explanations. Love does not coexist with those things. Love is black and white in terms of its presence. It's either evident or it is absent. If a person's behavior is selfish, the only love involved is the individual's…

Grief and Growth

Grief, according to Psychology Today, is the acute pain that accompanies loss. I’ve always thought of grief as a period of time following an event, but the older I get, or perhaps the more life experiences I have, I realize that grief is actually a lifelong process. Grief is not something people feel or experience…

First Day of School

It’s the first day of school and I’m up before the sun, hours before any alarms go off, excited about your year ahead and praying for your year ahead. Each year of school brings so many new milestones, from new kinds of math to discoveries about yourself to lessons about people and relationships. As your…

City Management

I manage a city. I manage a city, and I have every job within the city. When things go awry with my children or their friends, or even with kids at school they don’t really know, I am on the other end of the 9-1-1 call. My job is to ask just enough questions to…

Help Me To See

For the last couple of weeks, I’ve been focused on this mantra: God, help me to see what you want me to see. A speaker at a retreat I attended shared that she’s been starting her day that way, and it stuck with me. God, help me to see what you want me to see.…

Forty-Six

When I was younger I used to wonder what life would be like when I was 20 and then 30 and then 40. Although not as often because life is just a little too chaotic, I still sometimes daydream about what life will be like 10 years from now and 20 years from now. I…

Healthy Relationships

You can’t negotiate a healthy relationship with someone who is focused on winning. You can’t negotiate a healthy relationship with someone who isn’t as focused on giving as they are on taking. You can’t negotiate a healthy relationship with someone you can’t trust. You can’t negotiate a healthy relationship with someone who isn’t healthy. Healthy…

One Corner Piece

  Regret and Accountable. These two words have been running around in my head for months. Some days they are louder than others, but their noise is an almost constant hum in the background of my life. I didn't behave inappropriately with someone else, I didn't and don't hide from all the people who might…