Healthy Relationships

You can’t negotiate a healthy relationship with someone who is focused on winning. You can’t negotiate a healthy relationship with someone who isn’t as focused on giving as they are on taking. You can’t negotiate a healthy relationship with someone you can’t trust. You can’t negotiate a healthy relationship with someone who isn’t healthy. Healthy…

One Corner Piece

  Regret and Accountable. These two words have been running around in my head for months. Some days they are louder than others, but their noise is an almost constant hum in the background of my life. I didn't behave inappropriately with someone else, I didn't and don't hide from all the people who might…

Oh Good Lord

I sat with my Mom at lunch today and thought OH GOOD LORD over and over and over again. It's Mother's Day and I wanted us to have a nice lunch with good conversation and then all these things - MomLife - kept happening. The wait time was going to be 45 minutes, someone didn't…

There Is Only One Me

There is only one me. I say it all the time in my head when there’s just too much. I occasionally say it out loud when multiple people are talking to me at the same time. There is only one me. I can only be in one meeting at a time, in one place at…

April Fool’s Birthday Girl

Fourteen years ago, in the middle of the night, I was doing the exact same thing as I am right at this moment: laying in bed with my daughter just a few feet away, marveling about her. Ella was born not long after midnight, on April 1. After all the post-delivery chaos of Apgar scores…

Melancholy Mom Notes to My Girls

When you are sad or hurting it breaks my heart. I would rather feel the pain of someone smashing a limb of my own than watch you struggle. Watching you struggle and knowing the reason why fills me with sadness and regret. And it motivates me to do absolutely everything possible to make the remainder…

Know Who You Are, Brave Girl

Somehow the teenage years are here and I feel woefully unprepared. Woefully unprepared to navigate all that these years come with. Woefully unprepared to help her navigate all that these years come with. I realize this child lives in my home and I have planned a birthday celebration for her every year for the last…

Grieving is Brave

It’s hard to predict what things will “stick” in our children’s minds years from now. What memories will become indelibly lodged in their brains and psyches. What events will be life changing. What words will be mulled over repeatedly. What action or inaction will never be forgotten, and will alter the way they think and…